Of a surety, there are things in life that goes beyond the control of man. Yet, if you can gain mastery of what drives you, alot of errors and turbulence can be avoided.
Whoever has no rule over his own spirit Is like a city broken down, without walls… Proverbs 25: 28
Self control is the ability to rule over your inner man and put your outer man under constrain. To lose self control is to be driven by the controlling power of your flesh.
Among others, self control is a cardinal virtue of christainity. And a trusted gauge for christain growth and maturity.
Friends, the more you submit your inner man to the HolySpirit, the more you gain control over your outer man and deeds.